What are the Parties Like?

We try to schedule one social event each month at one of the guest's homes which are usually within an hour's drive of Burlington, VT. Our events usually include about 40 guests. All personal information is confidential. The events are social events, NOT sex parties or orgies, so please don't attend expecting any sexual content.

People usually arrive around 8 PM bringing appetizers and desserts (we encourage you to arrive on time so our greeter can enjoy the party themselves). The events are not unlike a cocktail party (without the booze) with lots of food, conversation, and flirting. At 9 PM SHARP our Member Liaison Magnum makes announcements and introduces the Core Group, the host, and whatever entertainment we have for the evening. We usually have an educational demonstration or discussion group of some sort which usually starts around 9:30 PM. Depending on how big the event is and the mood of the guests, guests usually start leaving around midnight, but sometimes people stay late to talk.

WHO GOES TO OUR EVENTS?

The parties usually include an even mix of doms, subs, and in between, usually about 40 people total. Age varies greatly from about 21 to 60 years old. Most of the guests are hetro, many bisexual/bi-curious and a few are gay, lesbian, and transgendered. Some of the guests are very experienced, many are novice. The Vermont community is very young, and our guests generally do not embody the more extreme styles as one might find in the big cities.

We usually get a good number of couples plus 30 or so single women and men. As is common in the scene, there are usually more men than women at these parties. For this reason, we do usually have a cap on single heterosexual men, in part to increase the comfort level of single, heterosexual women, and in part because we feel the energy of a gathering is positively influenced by the more balanced presence of both men and women. We encourage an atmosphere where individuality is valued, and we discourage a "pick-up" or "meat market" mentality.

LADIES! - we do encourage you especially to attend! If you would like to meet with one of us first, we can set that up. We want you to feel as safe as possible.

Our goal is to encourage people to meet others. You will find that everyone is pretty darn "normal." We all have jobs and reputations to protect. As far as I know there are no 100% lifestyle players locally. For most of us the BDSM element is something we do in the bedroom, not live out day in and day out. It is a small community, so we can provide you with references for anyone you meet there.